“The bond between a pet and a human is a sacred one, and when a pet is gone, a part of us goes with them.”

As pet parents, we cherish every moment with our furry companions—the playful zoomies, the quiet snuggles, the joyful greetings after a long day. But one of the hardest parts of loving a pet is facing the inevitable goodbye. Whether your pet is aging or dealing with a terminal illness, preparing for their final moments is emotionally challenging, but it can also be a time of deep connection and love.



As a pet photographer, I’ve had the privilege of capturing the bond between pets and their families, even in their final days. I want to offer guidance and resources to help you navigate this difficult time with as much peace and support as possible.


Someone lies in autumn leaves with their black fluffy dog in a backyard with wooden fence.

1. Recognizing When It’s Time

Determining when to say goodbye is one of the most difficult decisions a pet parent can make. Veterinarians often use a Quality of Life Scale to assess your pet’s well-being. Some signs that your pet may be struggling include:

  • Chronic pain that cannot be managed with medication
  • Difficulty breathing or frequent respiratory distress
  • Loss of appetite and severe weight loss
  • No longer enjoying their favorite activities
  • Incontinence or inability to move without distress

Consulting with your veterinarian can help you make an informed decision. You can also use the Lap of Love Quality of Life Scale to assess your pet’s comfort level.


2. Planning for End-of-Life Care

There are several options for end-of-life pet care, and it’s important to choose what feels right for you and your pet:

  • Hospice and Palliative Care: Some families choose to provide pet hospice care at home to keep their pets comfortable for as long as possible. Organizations like Lap of Love and Angel's Paws specialize in in-home pet hospice and pet euthanasia services.
  • Euthanasia at Home vs. Veterinary Office: Many veterinarians offer home euthanasia for pets, allowing them to pass peacefully in their familiar surroundings. This can be a gentler experience for both pets and owners.
  • Aftercare Choices: Pet cremation services and pet burial options are available through local pet cemeteries and veterinary clinics. Some companies, like Better Place Forests, offer eco-friendly pet memorials.


Fluffy brown dog lies on their back getting belly rubs while relaxing on their owner's lap during an end of life session.

3. Talking to Children About Pet Loss

Explaining the loss of a pet to children can be challenging, but honesty and sensitivity are key. Here are some ways to help them understand and cope:

  • Use Clear and Simple Language: Avoid phrases like “put to sleep,” which can be confusing. Instead, explain that their pet was very sick and has passed away.
  • Encourage Questions and Feelings: Let children express their emotions and ask questions. Reassure them that sadness is normal and that it’s okay to grieve.
  • Involve Them in the Goodbye: If appropriate, allow them to say goodbye in a way that feels comfortable—whether through a letter, drawing, or a small ceremony.
  • Create a Memorial Together: Help them remember their pet through photos, a scrapbook, or planting a tree in their honor.

Books like The Invisible Leash by Patrice Karst and When a Pet Dies by Fred Rogers can be helpful resources for children coping with pet loss.



A French Bulldog interacting with a child sitting in a grassy field during golden hour.

4. Creating a Lasting Memory

One of the most healing things you can do is create a lasting tribute to your pet. Consider:

  • Professional End-of-Life Pet Photography: Many pet photographers (myself included) offer special sessions to capture the final days with your pet in a meaningful way. I do my best to keep space available for these sessions, so please reach out at any time.
  • Pet Memorial Keepsakes: Companies like Pawpals create personalized paw print keepsakes, and Eterneva turns pet ashes into diamonds. Many Etsy shops also offer custom pet memorial items.
  • Writing a Letter or Journal Entry: Writing down your favorite pet memories, the ways your pet changed your life, and what you want to remember most can be a cathartic way to process grief.


Standing in a field of blooming black-eyed susans at sunset while cradling a small black and white dog.
Photo of a dog's paw in the hands of it's owners during an end of life session.

5. Finding Support During Grief

Grieving a pet is just as real and valid as grieving any other family member. If you need support, there are wonderful resources available:


6. Giving Yourself Permission to Heal

Everyone grieves differently. Some people find comfort in adopting another pet when the time feels right, while others need more time to heal. Honor your own process and know that it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling.


Final Thoughts


Saying goodbye is never easy, but it’s a testament to the deep love we have for our pets. By planning ahead, seeking support, and creating lasting pet memorials, you can ensure that your pet’s final days are filled with comfort, love, and peace.


If you’d like to capture a final tribute to your pet, I offer compassionate end-of-life pet photography sessions to help preserve their memory. Feel free to reach out if you need any other support or resources during this difficult time—or if you just need someone to talk to.


Sending love and light to all the pet parents navigating this journey. You are not alone. ❤️

xo, Heather Cincinnati Photographer

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